Social networking has become
such an important part of our lives with an average human spending around 3 Hrs
a day. We being a healthcare service provider had to post this article as there
were too many cases of depression to even suicidal tendencies because of social
media. Irresponsible use of social media has affected all age groups.
By writing below article we
aren’t saying one should not be in social network, however below caution is
essential for teenagers, parents to share with their children.
Now the serious part. There
was this teenager who received an unknown friend request from an opposite sex.
This started with FB friend request, FB chat, progressed to Whatsapp and then
to mobile calls. This is the new norm for progression in relationships in
netizen’s world today. Viz. FB - whatsapp - call, in that order. Though the
girl in this case had no background or clue about this guy, she still accepted
the invite, rationale being there were few “Common” friends.
FB preying works like this.
The attacker decides on a target first. Motivation could be money, revenge on
parents or family, sexual, simply fun, a bad marriage or a relationship, last
but not the least simple sadistic pleasure.
Here are the steps that is
- Offender selects the target, the
victim and initially sends friend requests to all the family and friends
except the target.
- Once there are sizeable common
friends, sends a friend request to the target.
- Many offenders use a fake profile
or in many instances they impersonate. How do they impersonate, will be
written in another post.
- They put posts in their profile
which shows them grand and also try make themselves relevant to their
target. For instance, check-in to star hotels, their travel schedule,
movie reviews etc. They be the fun, happy-go-lucky type of personality
with no harm intended.
- Once the friend request is
accepted, that’s a big milestone achieved for the offender. Depending on
the motivation subsequent steps followed very meticulously. They develop an
online relationship with regular status updates.
- After about 1-2 chat sessions phone
number would be asked. Relationship gets to whatsapp stage and then to
phone call. There have been several instances when people were cheated of
money. There was this FB friend of 3 months who claimed to visit India and
played out to have sent a parcel before his visit which was caught by
customs. Request followed for the need of Rs.2.5 Lakhs to release the
same. There are educated victims who have fallen prey to such con jobs
unknowingly as the offender makes them believe of his/her existence.
- For teenagers, the offender is
usually far too older, takes advantage of teenager’s urge to do something
different, innocence and ignorance in many cases.
- Offenders targeting bad
relationships or divorced spouses, usually stalk by impersonating the divorced
better half. Their area of interest would be to know who is the new person
in their Ex’s life and they would do everything to harm the image of the
Hence it becomes extremely important as to who
you accept as friends on social media.
1. 1. Do not accept FaceBook invites
or emails from unknown people, even though there are common friends. Exception
could be you would like to be connected with them for a known reason.
- Before accepting an invite, if
there are common friends, ask them whether they know them personally ?
- Or make a rule to accept invites
from people who are in your phone contacts. This way you are atleast sure
about who you have in your list.
- Even if you accept the invite, it
is always a good idea to pick up the phone and talk first. If you can
chat, you can as well talk, and sooner the better.
- Use settings on the social media
platforms to protect your privacy to show updates, pictures only to your known
We wish social media to be
an enjoyable experience for everyone. This is a word of caution. We definitely
don’t recommend anyone to delete your profile, however use social media
responsibly and cautiously.
For any health related issues feel free to contact us at www.medisensehealth.com/second-opinion